Laugh and cry

June 9, 2012 Elisa

Today I sat next to Elias when he was doing his work.  It seemed that he made a mistake with his work, and had to correction tape it over.  He said : “Troublesome, right?”

Without waiting for a reply from me, he said : “Well, you can’t help it, if you have a troublesome child, you can’t just throw him away…. well, you can, but it’s not very nice”

Honestly, Elias is such a lovable rascal.  He knows what he is like – he even seemed proud of how much he drives me up the wall.  Sometimes, I don’t know whether to laugh or to cry.

 

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I am who I am, and I am proud of it!

 

I choose to laugh, except for times when I get so angry that I threaten him with things which I later regret.  But when I am in control of my senses, I laugh because I have learnt, that that is the most effective way of dealing with it.

When he was in Kindergarten, his teacher told us :”As a Kindergarten teacher, there are some children whom I will always remember.  Elias is one of them”.  She did not mean it to be a compliment.
When I first heard that many years ago, I felt indignant and sad.  But after all these years, I have come to understand why she said that.  The comments from the teachers about Elias are always the same.  He is bright, but he does not want to (put in the necessary amount of effort).
Hey, I have one of this type at home!
We choose to look on the bright side.  As I have written earlier, his natural exuberance adds wonder to my life.  Last week he came back shouting:  “Look, Mum! Look what I got! MUM, LOOK! It’s a pair of mating moths!”
Indeed, held between his fingers was a moth, delicately attached to another.  I suppose they ARE mating.  I was hoping in my mind, that the process was not much interrupted by these inquisitive and intrusive humans.
He quickly put them into a container.  Two days later, voila! There was a cotton-wool like thing at a corner.  Soon after, he released the two moths, keeping only the eggs.  A few days later, the eggs disappeared. Elias said :”The eggs have hatched, and the caterpillars have crawled off.”  When I looked at him, incredulous, he said to me, in an off-handed manner :”Yah ya, the eggs will hatch into caterpillars”.
Another time, we found a rainbow on the bedsheet.
Elias, who dislikes photo taking, gamely posed.

Loving him aside, we need to help him grow up responsible, disciplined and useful.  We are still working on it.

One of those times, when Elias decides to play the role of a studious child.
Even then, he prefers to do it in his own way..
And to think that we spent hundreds of dollars designing a study table for him…

For now, we continue to laugh more, and cry only in prayer.

Elias loved this picture.  “It is mummy and me.”
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5 Responses to “Laugh and cry”

  • Adora says:

    Love this post. What an intelligent boy!! I love that you dedicate a post to your second born. Just as I was starting to fear that the #2 is always going to lose out in terms of mummy time and attention, I am encouraged yet again by a post like this. Keep it up!!

    June 10, 2012 Reply
  • loveourchildrennow says:

    Thanks Adora! It is an exciting balancing act, dividing time and attention between the children. You will enjoy it 🙂

    June 10, 2012 Reply
  • lynklee says:

    Great post! recording such moments and reflections are why i love blogging.
    – littlebluebottle

    June 11, 2012 Reply
  • p2me1a says:

    Love this post too! Can feel your bitter sweet feelings. The dunno whether to laugh or angst kinda feeling. My first time reading a post on this blog. Will definitely be reading more posts 🙂 Welcome to SMB.

    June 11, 2012 Reply

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