So engrossed in studying was he, that he did not know that I had taken a photo.
Miracles do happen. Tomorrow is Elias’ SA2 Science paper and he is studying for it.
Maybe I am happy over a very minor thing, and everyone’s children study. But MY children have NEVER done any studying on their own accord. I blame it on my pro-activeness.
This was taken earlier this year. Elias and I were working on Chinese.
We went on a family picnic and I brought some of their work along,
so I could coach them in between their play.
If you were my child, I bet you would have this attitude :
“My mother is constantly pushing me so hard,
why should I work hard on my own?”
We had gone through some Science papers (initiated by me) and he was supposed to sleep early. But while he was on his bed, and I was reading to Samuel, he asked me what topics he is weak in. I told him ‘Cells’ and thought nothing of it.
When I got up from Samuel’s bed, a beautiful sight greeted me – he was flipping through his Science Booster trying to find the chapter on ‘Cells’, but not succeeding. What would a mother do in such a situation? She would quickly get the information on ‘Cells’ and pass it to him! So I did. He was delighted and diligently started reading it. I thought I was in heaven. I sat next to him, and watched him study.
For a boy who has to sit for an examination tomorrow, he should be sleeping. But I wanted to enjoy the moment of having (finally!) a self-driven boy who wanted to prepare himself just that little bit more. I also wanted him to enjoy the experience of working hard for something important to him.
Not too long ago, we bought Elias a terrapin. It was a reward for good work done in school – he took about two months to earn it. After about a month of having ‘Pebble’, Elias told me that out of all his things, the one which he treasures the most is ‘Pebble’, because he worked hard for it.
This is “Pebble”! This is the first time I have seen it sleeping. It looked so cute.
Elias is very diligent in feeding it and taking care of it.
(We could not tell whether it is a male or female. So it is ‘it’ for now).
As parents, there is nothing that pleases us more than to see our children reach maturity – to understand important values like gratitude, kindness and hard work. We are anxious for them to learn the lessons, and on bad days, we wonder whether they will ever learn.
But time and time again, I have learnt that many lessons cannot be rushed, and that the children learn much better through their own experiences in life than our nagging or lectures.
Like all exam periods, these few days have been tough on Elias as I had to be rough with him many times. I was just glad that tomorrow is Science exams, because at least he enjoys the subject. However, the last thing I would expect was for him to pick up a book and study. Once again, my son has shown me that he is made of better stuff.
So may God bless you tomorrow, Elias, that you will remember all the things which you have studied. Whatever the outcome of the examinations, I am proud of you. Thank you for encouraging me, that my labours are not in vain.